Paul Walker Was Fearless, I Can Be Too

Paul Walker Was Fearless, I Can Be Too

This morning, I took my husband’s arm as he buckled our boys into our SUV to take our oldest to school. “Please, drive extra carefully this morning, okay?” I pleaded.

You see, I have been having an extra dose of fear this week-a fear that I had to spend some time wrestling with today-asking God to remove it.

It’s not a crippling, can’t-get-out-of-bed kind of fear, but a nagging nudge in my mind that started after I heard about the terrible car accident that took the life of Paul Walker this past weekend.

He was a former classmate at Village Christian Schools and a family friend-an easy-going guy who was vivaciously fun-loving. His unpretentious spirit remained unchanged by fame.  Paul often commanded a room without even trying-but not in a superficial way. He wanted everyone else around him to feel valued and noticed. He was very good at making you feel like the superstar. Those of us who spent any time with him know that he loved snowboarding and surfing-all things daring-and that he lived a life that was fearless. The sudden and shocking nature of his accident is still hard to believe.

It was the same feeling of fear that I had at the funerals of several former students-taken by cancer, or an undiscovered heart defect, overdoses, or accidents. All of them boys. All of them young.  As the mother of 3 little boys, my heart has been picking up speed, racing towards anxiety as the adrenaline of “What if?” courses through my mind. The past emotions of grief and the sadness of watching mothers and fathers bowed by pain came sharply back to me.

Fear was knocking at my heart and the tape in my head replayed all the reasons why it should stay.

Except, fear is always founded on possibilities and no one ever moves forward under the weight of “maybe”. 

The world will give us cause to panic if we let it. Contaminated fish from Fukushima on our dinner plates, core curriculum letting public school kids slip through the cracks, one more major retailer going out of business in a suffering economy, and report after report of hostile countries aiming their nuclear weapons in our direction.

But the antidote to fear is Truth.

As mothers and fathers and friends we can worry ourselves to the bone and live skeletal lives that cause us to die before we are truly dead. Perhaps the only thing worse than being literally gone, is being alive but living in fear.

For those who are Christ-followers, our hope is not founded on temporal circumstances. Our hearts are not framed to house worry. And we don’t operate under the premise that life will not bring trouble because we know that in this world, sin still operates to destroy. Our hope transcends the here and now and is fixed on Jesus Christ who has overcome the world and brings beauty from ashes.

I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world. John 16:33

For God has not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7

So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do to me. Hebrews 13:6

So then, those who suffer according to God's will should commit themselves to their faithful Creator and continue to do good. 1 Peter 4:19

How does a mother who begins to feel the burden of fear flood her heart move past it?

She meditates on Truth. We are never alone and our master is not the cold grip of “What if?” but the warm embrace of Who Is.

If you are struggling under the weight of the world, the anxieties of fear, or the paralysis of how to move forward then stop and consider that God came to give us abundant life-life to the full!

Look outward today. Conquer fear with truth and dispel the possibilities of all the bad things can harm you or your loved ones by doing good and putting your trust in God who cares for you. And know that when those deep trials come, He will be there to comfort you and carry your through it.

We were designed for peace and I for one am going to remember that good news today.

Fear is a fickle and tumultuous foe but he is no match for a heart that is founded in faith.

I stand by as I watch the car drive away with all things most precious in the world to me, and it’s okay for me to grieve and shed the tears of remembrance for all those precious ones who I have known that won’t return to this earthly life. There is a season for everything under heaven but fear need not be one of them. As I read about the many friends and family who are still reeling from the loss of Paul we see the world remember him as "The Fast and The Furious" but in my mind the word that still comes to mind-the word that I'm choosing to embrace for my own life today,  is fearless.

And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7 

YOUR TURN!  Is there something that is causing you fear that I can pray about for you? What kinds of situations or circumstances cause you to go down a path of fear and how do you manage those feelings?

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Amber Lia

A former high school English teacher, Amber is a work-at-home mom of 4 little boys under the age of 10. She is the best-selling author of Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, say Something New. She and her husband Guy own Storehouse Media Group, a faith-friendly and family-friendly TV and Film production company in Los Angeles, CA. When she’s not building sand castles with her boys on the beach, or searching for Nerf darts all over her house, you can find Amber writing to encourage families on her blog at Mother of Knights (