Dear Embarrassed Mom, (A MOB Society Post!)

I have been the Embarrassed Mom. As a mom of all boys, I feel like there is a delicate balance between my need to present socially acceptable children who sit quietly and never cause a raucous and the mom who understands that my boys are adventurous and full of testosterone that need to have their energy guided and fostered well. If you have ever been embarrassed by your child’s behavior or “boyness”, then join me over at The MOB Society (for moms of boys, by moms of boys!)  today for my post, Dear Embarrassed Mom (Hope For The Messiness Of Motherhood)!

Here is the first portion of the post:

Dear Embarassed Mom (Hope For The Messiness Of Motherhood)

Dear MOB Society,

My sons are “all boy” and when we get together with some of our family members and friends, their social skills and manners are less than perfect.  I have a hard time with the scrutiny I get from people. My in-laws think I’m a bad mom. They don’t say so, but I can feel their judgmental spirit. How do I get past this? I almost would rather stay home, but I’m not sure if that’s the right path to take. Can you help?

Sincerely,

Embarrassed Mom

Dear Embarrassed Mom,

Oh BOY, can I relate! Did you hear about the time one of my boys, at age 2, greeted a little girl we had invited over for dinner with a ninja kick? Yeah, that didn’t go over so well. Rough housing may be his love language, but she didn’t get the message. And her parents have never gotten over it either.  And then there was the time that one of my sons decided to gather the dog poop in the back yard at a friend’s house and present it to us in the living room. Sigh.

What’s an embarrassed mom to do? Or a mom with a bit of a fracture in her heart because others don’t understand her “testoster-home” as I like to call my own boy-filled house-hold?

1. Don’t Measure By Moments

Your worth as a mother is not based on moments. It’s based on the fruit of an entire childhood of training and praying and nurturing. God describes it like this:

Fix these words of mind in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. ~Deuteronomy 11:18-20

That sounds a lot like many moments strung together over the course of a childhood, doesn’t it? If you have the heart of a mother who loves her sons, prays for them, cares for their needs, and is training them in the things of the Lord, then guess what? You are a good mom! Your value is not based on what someone sees over the course of certain moments-especially the moments when your son or you may fail. And your child’s value is not based on those opinions or moments either!

To read MORE of this post and find other ways to handle your adventurous boys, go HERE! 

YOUR TURN! I would love to hear your comments over at The MOB Society. Have you ever been an Embarrassed Mom?

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Amber Lia

A former high school English teacher, Amber is a work-at-home mom of 4 little boys under the age of 10. She is the best-selling author of Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses and Parenting Scripts: When What You’re Saying Isn’t Working, say Something New. She and her husband Guy own Storehouse Media Group, a faith-friendly and family-friendly TV and Film production company in Los Angeles, CA. When she’s not building sand castles with her boys on the beach, or searching for Nerf darts all over her house, you can find Amber writing to encourage families on her blog at Mother of Knights (www.motherofknights.com).